February 24th, 2010
Are you one of those people that says yes to everything, tries to please everyone and runs around like a headless chicken trying to be in six places at once? Chances are you are also late for everything and annoy more people than you manage to please, no matter how hard you try to keep everyone happy. Maybe it’s time to try a new approach. Warning- it may go completely against your natural instincts at first, but you, and everyone else, will soon see the benefits.
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February 24th, 2010
It’s all very well to think positive and to choose to be happy, but what if you don’t actually feel happy and positive? What if actually you really feel scared, angry, sad, disappointed, hurt?
It has become common to view these so called negative feelings as bad. It’s not socially acceptable to spend too much time being angry or bitter, or moping around being miserable. In response to that we tend to then deny these feelings when they arise, but the problem is, by denying them they don’t go away, they just get buried beneath the surface. And that, I believe, is dangerous and unhealthy. Beneath the surface they fester, and eventually explode in some way – either emotionally, or physically.
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February 18th, 2010
In my opinion, asking is the most under-utilised tool for getting what you want. Kids do it well, but as adults we seem to have lost this tool from our repertoire.
Why?
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February 17th, 2010
My six year old daughter and I enjoyed some chill out time on Sunday afternoon, watching the Winter Olympics on TV. She asked me why I had tears in my eyes. It was simply because I find it so special and awe-inspiring to share in the experience of such dedicated athletes living their dream. The focus, the determination, the sheer hard work that goes into preparing for such an event is so intense, that the energy coming out of the television screen is almost palpable. And then it all comes down to one race.
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February 12th, 2010
If you’re unhappily single, Valentine’s Day can be one of the toughest times of the year. Even if you are otherwise content with your relationship status, or lack of, having your nose rubbed in everyone else’s romantic bliss can be unsettling. The reality is that most people would like more love in their lives. Last week, we talked about how to get more love in your relationship, but where do you start if you’re currently single?
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February 11th, 2010
Lynette “Polly” McFadden – Harcourts Real Estate
Lynette, known as Polly to her friends, is a vibrant Maori woman successfully operating several Harcourts real estate offices in the Christchurch area. A working class background hasn’t stopped her from becoming one of Christchurch’s hottest businesswomen. Not content with her own success, she shares her positive energy with all around her, inspiring others to succeed and grow into whatever they wish to become.
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February 10th, 2010
One of my favourite quotes is from the Dalai Lama, “Everything is always alright in the end. If it is not alright, then it is not the end.”
No matter how bad things seem, it is never forever, it always gets better. Sometimes you just have to trust the process, and focus on your intended outcome, and remember that the rough patch will pass.
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February 8th, 2010
Often the most important decisions we make in our lives can be the toughest to make. There is no end of outside influence that can affect our decisions: friends, family, colleagues, professional experts, the media, the Internet… and the list goes on. A good decision though, is the one that is right for us, personally. To help us make our own right decisions, we each have three different internal decision making tools we can consult: our head, our heart, and our gut. The best decisions are made when all three are in line, wanting the same thing.
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February 8th, 2010
Most people worry about things that probably will never happen. But because there is still a chance that they may happen, they worry anyway. This worry could be eliminated by taking some simple steps to protect yourself and your loved ones from the things that cause you the most concern.
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February 8th, 2010
Every single thing that we do is driven psychologically by a basic desire to either gain pleasure, or avoid pain. This is very useful to know if you’re trying to change aspects of your life, because if you can change your thinking, then your doing will naturally change as well.
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