Often the most important decisions we make in our lives can be the toughest to make. There is no end of outside influence that can affect our decisions: friends, family, colleagues, professional experts, the media, the Internet… and the list goes on. A good decision though, is the one that is right for us, personally. To help us make our own right decisions, we each have three different internal decision making tools we can consult: our head, our heart, and our gut. The best decisions are made when all three are in line, wanting the same thing.
Protect Yourself
February 8th, 2010
Most people worry about things that probably will never happen. But because there is still a chance that they may happen, they worry anyway. This worry could be eliminated by taking some simple steps to protect yourself and your loved ones from the things that cause you the most concern.
What Drives You? – Pleasure Versus Pain
February 8th, 2010
Every single thing that we do is driven psychologically by a basic desire to either gain pleasure, or avoid pain. This is very useful to know if you’re trying to change aspects of your life, because if you can change your thinking, then your doing will naturally change as well.
Live in the Now!
February 8th, 2010
Most people have heard the saying:
“The past is history, the future is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it’s called the present.”
However, how many of us spend a large proportion of our time either dwelling on issues of the past or striving to create a fantastic future? We are missing the here and now. While it’s worthwhile to reflect on the past, and to visualise the future, most of us would benefit from focusing more attention on the present.
Need More Love in Your Relationship?
February 6th, 2010
It’s that time of the year when we are bombarded with the notion of love and romance as we lead up to Valentine’s Day. If you are in a relationship it may seem like you are one of the lucky ones? But are you getting what you want and need from your relationship? The reality is that many people would like more love in their lives, and it’s not just the single ones. The good news is that, if you want it, it’s possible, it just may require some effort and some courage.
Saying ‘No” – the Power of a 2 Letter Word
February 1st, 2010
How often do you say “yes” when you really mean “no”? Do you run yourself ragged trying to get things done that you agreed to but didn’t want to do in the first place? Do you wonder why you have no time and energy left for the things that are important to you? Do you worry about letting other people down? Do you wonder why on earth you said “yes” in the first place?
Damage Control – Surviving Your Mistakes
January 20th, 2010
Mistakes are an essential part of the learning process and an inevitable part of life. We all make mistakes, but some of them are bigger and have more serious consequences than others, especially if they involve our work or our personal relationships. So how can we make the most of our mistakes and learn from them rather than being crippled and devastated by them?
Is Your Fabulous Lifestyle Getting in the Way of Your Fantastic Life?
January 20th, 2010
There is actually a big difference between having a great lifestyle and a great life – but the two can easily become confused.
“Lifestyle” refers to things we buy to decorate our lives. Through our lifestyle choices we can buy an identity through brands. We can define how other people perceive us, so it can be a way of gaining acceptance and approval from them. A common term for this is “keeping up with the Joneses”. We want to control what people think of us and it can be tempting to do this through making sure we have the right “things” in order to be regarded in a certain way.
Your “life” on the other hand, is what you lead when you know what is important to you and you let that control your behaviour. Your life is made up of your choices and actions. Through our “life” we can create our own self esteem and pride through being true to our selves.
Create The Vision For Your Ideal Life!
January 15th, 2010
The very first step in creating your ideal life is to get very clear on what it looks like. This isn’t rocket science, it’s just much easier to get what you want if you know what that is.
Take some time to sit down and really think about this. If you could have your ideal life in 3, 6 or even 12 months time, what does it look like? Where are you living? What are you doing? Who is around you? What do you do in your spare time? How much money do you have? What do you look like? Read More
How to Achieve those Big Goals this Year!
January 15th, 2010
Have you set yourself some really big goals this year? Something you really want to achieve, but have no idea how yet? Is there a danger it might end up going in the “too-hard” basket and ending up back on the New Year’s resolution list again next year?
