Single and Want a Baby?

May 10th, 2010

As a Mum who was a single parent from the very beginning, I’m often asked about the pros and cons of having a baby by yourself.  In this age of independent women having careers and travelling, whilst the biological clock keeps on ticking, it’s a decision more and more single, thirty something, women are faced with.  If you are single, want to have a child, and are running out of time, then deciding to go ahead on your own can be the only option.  There is no right or wrong answer here, no foolproof decision making tool, but here are some important questions to work through to make the best choice for you.

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I’m Not A Politician, But…

April 13th, 2010

I know so many small businesses at the moment that are either going under or struggling to stay afloat (myself included) and it is not because they are not good operators or offering valuable products / services – it’s more to do with them being reliant on other small businesses as clients and getting caught up in a downward spiral.

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Paralysis by Analysis

March 30th, 2010

Feeling stuck and frustrated?  These two feelings often go together and are often inextricably linked.  Generally you feel frustrated because you are stuck, and there is a simple explanation for being stuck – it is because you’re not moving!  It’s easy to blame other people, our environment, and circumstance but actually, the source is usually us.  The good news is that means we can do something about it.

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Stuck in Procrastination

March 23rd, 2010

Procrastination is defined as “deferring action”. It’s easy to rationalise why we put things off that we don’t want to do – maybe we’re scared of the consequences, maybe we don’t know ‘how’ to go about it, maybe we simply ‘don’t want to’. Sometimes there are even unintended benefits to this procrastination – all sorts of things get done, that wouldn’t otherwise be contemplated – drawers get cleaned out, letters get written, chocolate cakes get baked…. and eventually when the pressure of a looming deadline gets intense enough, and/or the threat of consequences if you don’t do it, get bad enough, the procrastination evaporates and you simply have to take the action required.

But why do we put off doing the things that we DO want to do?

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Your Heart is a Powerhouse

March 22nd, 2010

When you live your life from your heart, you tap into a huge source of energy – energy that replenishes you, recharges you, and makes the work required to action tasks seem effortless.  In contrast, when you are living your life from your head, there is nothing to replenish you, and your energy is quickly drained, leaving you mentally fatigued, exhausted and often with a nasty headache!

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Allow Yourself to Receive

March 21st, 2010

Being fiercely independent is limited and selfish.  A controversial statement perhaps, but as Helen Keller famously said, “Alone we can achieve so little, but together we can achieve so much.”  Even Einstein, known more for his mathematical genius than his philosophies on life, deduced that “when two people put their heads together, it is like a third person has entered the room”.

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4 Quick Questions for the Best Decision Every Time

March 17th, 2010

Are you having trouble making an important decision?  Maybe you’ve tried weighing up the pros and cons, but still can’t decide?

Here’s a strategy that I find very helpful for tough choices.  It’s a simple process involving four questions.  They are known as the Cartesian Questions and were developed by a famous metaphysician called Rene Descartes.  You’ll need some paper to keep track of your answers.  Read More

You Can’t Stockpile Opportunities

March 3rd, 2010

Ideas and opportunities can come any time, any place. Often they just start as a thought that pops into your head. They can arrive completely randomly, or be triggered by something you see, or hear. I like to think ideas come from a greater source, something we can’t fully understand, but that is more powerful than just little old us. As such, an idea is a gift and it should make you do something, take some kind of action – but how often do we get great ideas and not do anything with them?

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Denying Your Emotions Can Make You Sick

February 24th, 2010

It’s all very well to think positive and to choose to be happy, but what if you don’t actually feel happy and positive?  What if actually you really feel scared, angry, sad, disappointed, hurt? 

It has become common to view these so called negative feelings as bad.  It’s not socially acceptable to spend too much time being angry or bitter, or moping around being miserable.  In response to that we tend to then deny these feelings when they arise, but the problem is, by denying them they don’t go away, they just get buried beneath the surface.  And that, I believe, is dangerous and unhealthy.  Beneath the surface they fester, and eventually explode in some way – either emotionally, or physically.

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The Winter Olympics – a Great Example of Courage, Focus, Guts, Determination & Tenacity

February 17th, 2010

My six year old daughter and I enjoyed some chill out time on Sunday afternoon, watching the Winter Olympics on TV.  She asked me why I had tears in my eyes.  It was simply because I find it so special and awe-inspiring  to share in the experience of such dedicated athletes living their dream.  The focus, the determination, the sheer hard work that goes into preparing for such an event is so intense, that the energy coming out of the television screen is almost palpable.  And then it all comes down to one race.

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