It’s that time of the year when we are bombarded with the notion of love and romance as we lead up to Valentine’s Day. If you are in a relationship it may seem like you are one of the lucky ones? But are you getting what you want and need from your relationship? The reality is that many people would like more love in their lives, and it’s not just the single ones. The good news is that, if you want it, it’s possible, it just may require some effort and some courage.
If you’re already in a relationship:
Think about what it is that’s missing from your relationship – is it the fun, the intimacy, the romance, the communication, the closeness, the passion, the involvement? If you can pinpoint what it is you want more of, it’s much easier to rectify. Are you making time for each other? Are you having fun together? Do you make sure you have special time just for the two of you? Do you talk to each other? Are you involved in each other’s lives?
If not, is it because you just haven’t made it a priority and allocated the time, or actually because you don’t want to. Having a great relationship does require a bit of effort and you have to make sure you allow it the time it deserves.
If you want it to work, make the time to have some fun, do something special, talk to each other. If the “want to” isn’t there, do you really want to be with this person? Do you still like this person? People can grow apart and may come to a point where they just don’t want the same things anymore.
Not all good relationships last forever. People change and this is no-one’s fault. If your relationship has past it’s used by date then maybe it’s time to gently end it so you can both move on and find the love you deserve somewhere else.
See my other article for 5 Steps to Find Love if You’re Single.
By Jacqui Thomas
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