Posts Tagged ‘Family Dynamics’

Single and Want a Baby?

May 10th, 2010

As a Mum who was a single parent from the very beginning, I’m often asked about the pros and cons of having a baby by yourself.  In this age of independent women having careers and travelling, whilst the biological clock keeps on ticking, it’s a decision more and more single, thirty something, women are faced with.  If you are single, want to have a child, and are running out of time, then deciding to go ahead on your own can be the only option.  There is no right or wrong answer here, no foolproof decision making tool, but here are some important questions to work through to make the best choice for you.

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Allow Yourself to Receive

March 21st, 2010

Being fiercely independent is limited and selfish.  A controversial statement perhaps, but as Helen Keller famously said, “Alone we can achieve so little, but together we can achieve so much.”  Even Einstein, known more for his mathematical genius than his philosophies on life, deduced that “when two people put their heads together, it is like a third person has entered the room”.

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4 Quick Questions for the Best Decision Every Time

March 17th, 2010

Are you having trouble making an important decision?  Maybe you’ve tried weighing up the pros and cons, but still can’t decide?

Here’s a strategy that I find very helpful for tough choices.  It’s a simple process involving four questions.  They are known as the Cartesian Questions and were developed by a famous metaphysician called Rene Descartes.  You’ll need some paper to keep track of your answers.  Read More

If You Don’t Ask, You Don’t Get

February 18th, 2010

In my opinion, asking is the most under-utilised tool for getting what you want.  Kids do it well, but as adults we seem to have lost this tool from our repertoire.

Why?

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Everything is Always Alright in the End

February 10th, 2010

One of my favourite quotes is from the Dalai Lama, “Everything is always alright in the end.  If it is not alright, then it is not the end.”

No matter how bad things seem, it is never forever, it always gets better.  Sometimes you just have to trust the process, and focus on your intended outcome, and remember that the rough patch will pass. 

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Need More Love in Your Relationship?

February 6th, 2010

 It’s that time of the year when we are bombarded with the notion of love and romance as we lead up to Valentine’s Day.  If you are in a relationship it may seem like you are one of the lucky ones?  But are you getting what you want and need from your relationship?   The reality is that many people would like more love in their lives, and it’s not just the single ones.  The good news is that, if you want it, it’s possible, it just may require some effort and some courage.

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Saying ‘No” – the Power of a 2 Letter Word

February 1st, 2010

How often do you say “yes” when you really mean “no”?  Do you run yourself ragged trying to get things done that you agreed to but didn’t want to do in the first place?  Do you wonder why you have no time and energy left for the things that are important to you?  Do you worry about letting other people down?  Do you wonder why on earth you said “yes” in the first place? 

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Mary Murray – Excerpt from the Book – Go Girl Go!

January 12th, 2010

14 Mary cMary Murray – Paradisos Cafe

Mary was a fulltime mother and housewife for all 24 years of her married life until her husband announced he was having an affair.  Left with nothing when he left, with no experience or business acumen whatsoever, Mary took on the cafe her husband had been in the process of starting, complete with thousands of dollars worth of debts, and made a go of it.

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Enjoy Your Relatives and Survive the Family Dynamics

December 18th, 2009

Even the most loving of families can be stressful with they get together in a confined space.

A common issue of family dynamics is feeling like a child again in your parents’ home. It can be really frustrating to be treated like a kid again when you’re a successful, independent adult with your own life. No matter how old you are, you will always be your parent’s daughter / son. I have even heard people in their fifties and sixties talk about this same challenge. You have several choices here, and it really depends how severe the issue actually is.

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What To Do When Your Problems Are Actually Someone Else’s – The Art of Setting Boundaries

December 8th, 2009

Many clients come to me in despair with problems and issues that actually belong to other people – partners, children, friends, family members, work colleagues.  Often they’ve tried to get these people to change their offending behaviour and failed.  And therein lies the problem.  We can’t change other people, nor do we have any right to.  People will change if and when they want to and not a moment sooner.

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