March 21st, 2010
Being fiercely independent is limited and selfish. A controversial statement perhaps, but as Helen Keller famously said, “Alone we can achieve so little, but together we can achieve so much.” Even Einstein, known more for his mathematical genius than his philosophies on life, deduced that “when two people put their heads together, it is like a third person has entered the room”.
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March 3rd, 2010
How often do you actually stop and appreciate everything you have and everything that is good about your life? I’m sure we can all recall times when we’ve been told to “count our blessings” but when was the last time you actually did? Feeling and being grateful is a powerful exercise, which not only can make you feel a lot better about your circumstances, but also seems to welcome more good things into your life. Read More
February 24th, 2010
It’s all very well to think positive and to choose to be happy, but what if you don’t actually feel happy and positive? What if actually you really feel scared, angry, sad, disappointed, hurt?
It has become common to view these so called negative feelings as bad. It’s not socially acceptable to spend too much time being angry or bitter, or moping around being miserable. In response to that we tend to then deny these feelings when they arise, but the problem is, by denying them they don’t go away, they just get buried beneath the surface. And that, I believe, is dangerous and unhealthy. Beneath the surface they fester, and eventually explode in some way – either emotionally, or physically.
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February 10th, 2010
One of my favourite quotes is from the Dalai Lama, “Everything is always alright in the end. If it is not alright, then it is not the end.”
No matter how bad things seem, it is never forever, it always gets better. Sometimes you just have to trust the process, and focus on your intended outcome, and remember that the rough patch will pass.
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December 8th, 2009
Many clients come to me in despair with problems and issues that actually belong to other people – partners, children, friends, family members, work colleagues. Often they’ve tried to get these people to change their offending behaviour and failed. And therein lies the problem. We can’t change other people, nor do we have any right to. People will change if and when they want to and not a moment sooner.
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November 8th, 2009
Most people probably know that it’s beneficial to think positive. To really reap the rewards, you need to take that a step further, though. It’s not just about “thinking” positively, you need to “feel” positive.
We’ve all heard sayings such as “you reap what you sow” and “you get out what you put in”. The basis behind these is that what we put out into the Universe is what we attract back. So if you’re putting positive stuff out, you will attract good stuff back, and if you’re putting negative stuff out then you will attract more of the same.
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