One of my favourite quotes is from the Dalai Lama, “Everything is always alright in the end. If it is not alright, then it is not the end.”
No matter how bad things seem, it is never forever, it always gets better. Sometimes you just have to trust the process, and focus on your intended outcome, and remember that the rough patch will pass.
Change, and/or the need for change, can often be uncomfortable, but this discomfort is useful. Often it is a signal that changes need to be made and if they’re not made, the discomfort will increase until you do. At some point, the choice may no longer even be yours to make, and change will just happen with or without you. They say the Universe sends you messages, and if you don’t listen it turns up the volume!
The uncomfortable part can also come in the midst of change. You can ride this out, knowing that the discomfort is a natural part of the reshuffle forwards onto better things. Again focus on your intended outcome, trust the process, and know that the rough patch is part of working towards the better place at the end.
I’ve had two examples of this myself recently. One being a flatmate situation that was no longer working. I knew I needed to make a change but kept putting it off (avoiding confrontation perhaps?) until eventually the messages were getting so loud that I absolutely had to do something about it. The process was uncomfortable, but by focussing on my intended outcome, I knew I could ride it out and in the end, it would all be alright.
A second example is a new website I’ve been working on. There have been moments when I could very easily get bogged down in all the glitches and hiccups in the development process, and think it’s never going to work, that it’s all gone wrong. But by remembering the Dalai Lama, trusting the process, and focussing on the desired end result, the challenges and issues have been worked through and we’re on track to get to the intended outcome.
This is true of any situation. Change is the one true constant. Learn to work with it and you can save yourself a lot of stress.
Written by Jacqui Thomas
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