If you’re unhappily single, Valentine’s Day can be one of the toughest times of the year. Even if you are otherwise content with your relationship status, or lack of, having your nose rubbed in everyone else’s romantic bliss can be unsettling. The reality is that most people would like more love in their lives. Last week, we talked about how to get more love in your relationship, but where do you start if you’re currently single?
Here’s 5 Steps to Getting More Love in Your Life:
1. Firstly, do you actually want a relationship? Be honest here. And, if so have you made some room for it. Many single women are so extremely busy and stressed out that they simply don’t have the space, time or energy in their lives to meet anyone, let alone start a relationship. If you really want it, you need to factor it into your plan and create some time and space for love.
2. Secondly, know what you’re looking for, both in a partner, and in a relationship. Write yourself a list of all the attributes that are important to you. I’m not talking about surface things like eye colour, I mean personal qualities and interests that will be important for your compatibility. These could be things like political or religious beliefs, personality traits, values, goals in life, and could include things like drinking and smoking, whether they want or already have children, etc. Then go through the list again and highlight the “not-negotiables”. You will end up with a list of “not-negotiables”, plus a secondary list of” nice to haves” but that aren’t deal-breakers. Now you have a checklist and can avoid wasting lots of time and energy on people that are obviously wrong for you.
3. Get to know yourself. What are your strengths and attributes? Are you a good match for your ideal partner? Are there things about yourself that need some work? Have you dealt with any baggage from past relationships? To have a great relationship you need to be complete within yourself. You are looking for someone to share yourself with, not someone who can compensate for your gaps.
4. Next, are you getting out there and meeting people? It is a fact that gorgeous potential partners do NOT go randomly knocking on doors looking for lonely women sitting at home watching TV. You have to get involved, be social, get out there and have some fun. Let trusted friends and colleagues know that you’d like to meet some people and tell them what you’re looking for. Get active and do the things you love to do – it could be that your ideal match loves doing that too. These days there are also many professional agencies set up to introduce single people. Reputable internet sites provide a safe forum for people to meet, or try speed dating or singles dinner parties.
5. Lastly, don’t try too hard. You never know when you’re going to meet that wonderful person that absolutely rocks your world, – it’s likely to happen when you least expect it, so relax and enjoy yourself!
Written by Jacqui Thomas
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